Even if your husband/partner is not typically a procrastinator, he may be procrastinating when it comes to the subject of estate planning. Not surprisingly, this may be a source of much frustration for you. Although women can certainly put off estate planning as well, men are more likely to do so. The reasons for this are not completely clear; however, it may come down to the simple fact that men do not like venturing into unfamiliar territory.
Estate planning requires you to consider catastrophic events, untimely deaths, and a life without loved ones—something most men do not want to do. More importantly, many men like to be in control, and estate planning issues may bring up feelings of a loss of control. For all of these reasons, your husband/partner may be reluctant to sit down and discuss estate planning.
The good news is that there are some things you may be able to do to push, or prod, him into that appointment. For starters, you can point out why an estate plan is so important and the harm that could come to you, your children, and your finances if he doesn’t finally sit down and create one. Appeal to his protective instincts.
If that doesn’t work, make an appointment with an estate planning attorney and tell him you are going with or without him. He may give in at that point. If not, go yourself and ask some basic questions. If you come home with some basic answers to give him, he may feel more comfortable going back with you the next time.